Purchase Creeping indecisiveness infecting society
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.
~ Amelia Earhart
SALT LAKE CITY, Utah, Feb 20, 2015/ Troy Media/ – Here’s a true story about having lunch with a friend in a restaurant. After I chose the restaurant because she couldn’t decide what she was in the mood for, we finally sat down after an interminable discussion about whether we should sit in a booth or not. The waiter came by for our order.
I nodded to my friend to go first. “Gee, it all looks so good. I just don’t know . . . I like tuna melt sandwiches, but hmm . . . is it made of albacore?” The waiter: “I will ask the chef, Madam, and I’ll be right back”. She replied “No, that’s all right. How about the quiche? Is it popular?” He answered “Yes, it is. Will you order that?” My friend, “Um . . . gee, cheese is so binding. What is the soup of the day?”
Indecisiveness over lunch
At this point I was still calm. As a hint, I closed my menu and laid it on the table, indicating I have made my decision. ‘That will get her in gear.’
“The soup of the day is Lobster Bisque, Madam.”
“I see. Would that be Maine lobster?”
“Since we’re in Vancouver B.C., I doubt if the lobster is from Maine, Madam. Might I suggest the beef stew?” He acquired a bit of a snotty tone; I would tip him well.
“Stew? No, I prefer that my food be separate, not all mixed together.”
That was it. I excused myself and headed for the Ladies Room. I splashed cold water on my face thinking this is something I’ll laugh about in a couple of years. Killing time, I waved my hand over the red light of the towel dispenser and counted how long it took to get another towel. “One, one-thousand, two one-thousand” . . . I said a sort of prayer ‘Please, please help her to decide.’ Bored, I returned to the table.
The waiter was still there! “Madam, I have thought of the perfect lunch for you! It is our sampler platter that has a little of everything that makes this restaurant so popular. ” Yes, yes, there is sweat on his forehead. His hand shook a little. I felt vindicated in my near-breakdown.
“Great idea! I’ll have that. But wait, what about the sauces? Should I choose one?”
(We were so close! I almost banged my head on the table.)
“NO, Madam” said the almost giddy waiter “I’ll bring a sample of every sauce we have!” He started to leave, then halted mid-step realizing I hadn’t ordered yet. “I’ll have the ham on rye.” Tears came to his eyes. There are serious types of indecisiveness that have crept its way into society.
Consider the suddenly popular acronym “LGBT”, a part of which smacks of indecision. This is what I understand about the LB and T: It is apparently not a decision to be gay or lesbian. But it is a decision to be out and proud of who you are, rightfully expecting equal rights. Also, transsexuals don’t decide to be one gender inside and another outside. It takes courage to make the decision to surgically change into who you truly are meant to be. They deserve equal rights under the law. No argument there. Decisiveness is all over the LGT.
What’s with the “B” in LGBT?
But how did the “B” worm it’s way into LGT? I’ve read extensively about bisexuality; it boils down to the old phrase “going both ways”. A bisexual person is comfortable being in love with and having a sexual relationship with the same or opposite sex. So what? Where is the decision in that? Courage, none. Who would even know to violate these fence-sitters’ rights? If one of my five children told me he or she was bisexual, I would say “I love you very much and support all of your decisions. Now . . . make one!”
So you, “B’s” of LGBT, find yourselves a more suitable acronym You DO have a choice.
I just don’t get it. Do you?
By the way, when the waiter came hesitantly around for our dessert order. I answered with “check please”.
Stacey A. Lundgren is a professional speaker and anti-bullying expert. She is the author of the highly-rated book about teaching empathy to children, True Bucketfilling Stories: Legacies of Love.
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