NEW YORK Feb. 19, 2017/ Troy Media/ – There has been a lot of talk about how Donald Trump is unpredictable and that makes him dangerous – or at least prone to Twitter tantrums and unconventional press conferences.
But he is absolutely predictable if everyone would simply start to think of him as a 12-year-old boy. Since I once was that age, I find I understand Donald Trump on almost every level.
Twelve-year-old boys have emotions but not emotional maturity. If they like someone – I mean, like like – then they talk about them all the time – as with Trump and Putin. They don’t worry about deep analysis as to why or where it might lead. They just know that a particular person makes their heart glow and gives them feelings they can’t yet fully understand.
The flip side is they are just as clear in their disdain when they don’t like a particular person or group of people. They resort to insults – like a “nasty” woman or a “ridiculous” judge. They build treehouses or living room forts and hang signs that say things like “No Fat Chicks” allowed – or Muslims.
They think that’s enough to make everyone else see the same bad qualities. And if others don’t agree – well, they’re stupid and dumb … and lame.
Donald Trump likes walls. He doesn’t care what you think because he knows they’re great – the bigger, the better. No idea based on what you like is bad. When I was 12, I wanted to paint my bedroom walls black and dot them with white stars. My room would be like Star Trek and I could pretend I was in space looking out the main view screen on the bridge of the Enterprise.
I thought it was a fantastic idea. No one could convince me otherwise. The more they tried, the more I dug my heels in. Luckily, I was under the supervision of my mother who – just like a federal judge – was able to issue injunctions that prevented me from putting my ideas into action.
Twelve-year-old boys are also very adept at offering “alternative facts.” These are usually offered at the kitchen table – that most feared childhood forum of justice when one is called upon to explain certain actions. Twelve-year-old boys know that something becomes true if you repeat it enough times and really believe it yourself.
But there are good things, as well. Making big plans that have no basis in reality can be adorable. Like deciding that being a rock star will be your back-up plan if playing in the NHL doesn’t pan out. No 12-year-old is pessimistic. Every plan will work and the future will be tremendous.
Twelve-year-old boys change their minds with astonishing frequency. Moreover, they are allowed to do so without having to explain why. They are also allowed selective amnesia in forgetting past plans that didn’t work out in favour of current ones that grab their attention.
They also possess an undeniable charm in believing they can do anything, no matter what it is or how improbable its likelihood of fruition or success. They can kick the winning field goal in the Super Bowl, hit the bottom of the ninth World Series grand slam or score the overtime winner in the Stanley Cup.
Whatever it is, 12-year-old boys can do it faster and better than anyone else. Humility is not known to them and they delight in telling any and all listeners just how great they are.
The one mistake people make with 12-year-old boys is treating them like grown–ups. It is far better to simply indulge their boasting and allow real life to eventually provide the checks and balances to their ambitions.
Rather than allow anxiety to take root or give in to fear at what might happen, it is much more psychologically healthy to remember that many therapists have been advising us for years to get in touch with our own inner child.
Well, good news, we all are now experiencing the living manifestation of that inner child – and he lives in the White House.
And, no, I don’t mean Barron.
Troy Media columnist Gavin MacFadyen is a U.S. based writer and occasional lawyer. Gavin is included in Troy Media’s Unlimited Access subscription plan.
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