Change will come if we stay true to our values

Set goals, follow principles, choose our attitudes and actions, and things have a way of turning out

Change will come if we stay true to our valuesThe mantra of American meditation expert Bill Harris is: “Let whatever happens be okay.” Harris was talking about the process of meditation, which can lead to tremendous inner peace. It can also put a person to sleep or even result in temporary discomfort. When meditating, any outcome is fine, though we may need some guidance…

Positive self talk an excellent way to raise your spirit

A positive substitute to negativity and pessimism

Positive self talk an excellent way to raise your spirit“I should stop watching the news.” My husband and I utter this phrase several times a week and have been doing so since late March 2020. Sure, we’re curious what the weather is doing, but the daily bombardment of headlines designed to alarm and provoke us has become something to be avoided. Each headline seems…

Five steps to living a more authentic life

Start by being honest about yourself and being open to change

Five steps to living a more authentic lifeLiving a happy life is everyone’s goal. Who doesn’t want to feel good about themselves? Yet many of us live a life of self-doubt, feeling undeserving or incapable, or wishing we were walking another path. But wishing you were living a different life won’t make it happen. And others (even if they love you) can’t…

How to let go of disappointment and avoid conflict

Let go of your expectations of how things are supposed to go

How to let go of disappointment and avoid conflictThe conflicts that rear up in our lives most often stem from unrealized expectations. Each of us has a script we follow, an expectation of how things are supposed to go. When our expectations aren’t met, we can be delighted by the change, significantly disappointed or even angered. When we head to a nice restaurant,…

Five strategies to help you get back on top of your game

Our tips to help you quickly overcome your slump

Five strategies to help you get back on top of your gameHave you ever noticed how much more productive you are when you are immersed in activities that sing to you? Me too. But I also realize that waking up and feeling you cannot face another day at your desk happens to all of us. Catch me on a high note and I am captivated, inspired…

How to change your emotional response on command

The ability to change your emotional response is the biggest differentiator between those who do well and those who struggle

How to change your emotional response on commandAre you fed up? Perhaps with politics, taxes, grumpy people or the pandemic? Usually, these feelings pass. But when you get stuck in a swirl of negative emotion, the problems of the world seem to pile on and leave you feeling spent. Perhaps this is what causes normally rational individuals to become aggressive and even…

Develop a winning mindset to achieve your goals

To quote a noted sage: “Do or do not. There is no try”

Develop a winning mindset to achieve your goalsIn modern society, we’ve wandered away from the thought of winning. It has become taboo. All focus has been put on ensuring that those who don’t place feel just as special for having contributed. However, this flattening of drive seems to have had some unintended consequences – diminishing confidence and persistence. And if you want…

Building the root system for personal success

Live with integrity and gratitude, work hard, be kind to others and focus on your potential

Building the root system for personal successThe Chinese bamboo tree shows little or no apparent signs of growth for four years. Then suddenly, it can grow as much as 25 metres in weeks. That’s a powerful metaphor for the growth of successful people. Over those apparently-dormant four years, the tree actually is growing; we just can’t see it. It’s developing an…

New Year’s resolutions are out, naming the year is in

Naming the year inspires and motivates; a new year's resolution often ends in frustration

New Year’s resolutions are out, naming the year is inAs a child, I remember my parents and their friends gathering on New Year’s Eve and talking about their resolutions for the next year. Some of those resolutions might have been: quit smoking; plant a bigger garden; get the kids to school on time; drink more beer and less hard liquor; have a bigger pile…

Five steps to improving your life in 2022

Focus on the simple things that improve your life and you will become a happier person

Five steps to improving your life in 2022I relish the opportunity to reflect on the year – and give thought to what I want to be different going forward, and how I will accomplish that. I gave up making actual resolutions years ago; like everyone else, my follow-through was short-lived and ended in disappointment. But I like to experiment with new habits…