Did you hear about … how damaging gossip can be

Like death and taxes, storytelling isn’t going to go away. But when we participate in gossip, our character and integrity are on the line

Did you hear about … how damaging gossip can be“You will never believe what I just heard about Jane. …” How does a phrase like this grab our attention and pull us in so quickly? Even if we think we’re above all that, it can be difficult to resist hearing a story likely to be a lot more interesting than what we’re doing at the…

Trust your intuition, it knows what it’s talking about

Intuition is your unconscious self recognizing circumstances before your intellectual self does. You should be listening to its voice

Trust your intuition, it knows what it’s talking aboutI spoke recently at a conference where a lot of pre-seminar chatter was about the need to trust one’s intuition, especially when it comes to safety. This is a great discussion point, but a lot of people simply don’t allow intuition a chance to alert them or they ignore the obvious signs when intuition is…

How to keep meetings positive and focused on the outcome

Strategies you can use to avoid the swamp of unproductive meetings

How to keep meetings positive and focused on the outcomeDo your days feel like one unproductive meeting after another … and another? Have you noticed how often people get bogged down in the same issues you talked about the last time you got together? You ask yourself: “Why are we going over the same ground again and again?” Somewhere between the positive intentions that people start with and a…

The big payoff that comes from doing absolutely nothing

When we’re running from moment to moment, task to task, we lose perspective. Events and circumstances start to feel all-consuming

The big payoff that comes from doing absolutely nothingAre we so afraid of spending time alone with our own thoughts that we find tasks to occupy every moment of our waking day? We must stop consuming our days in this unmitigated busyness. When we’re running from moment to moment, task to task, we lose perspective. Events and circumstances start to feel all-consuming. We…

When strangers meet and civility reigns

Generosity of spirit and genuine kindness – it seems so simple but it also seems so essential to peace around the world

When strangers meet and civility reignsBarbara Bush once said, “Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people – your family, friends and coworkers, and even strangers you meet along the way.” I’d love to share a story about how this played out for my husband and I…

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and small

Make today the day you pause, make eye contact and explore how to ease conflict and build a more connected community

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and smallThere will never be a shortage of situations that put people in conflict with one another. From our strong opinions about the environmental impact of pipelines to the economics that drive decision-making. From differences of opinion about in-laws (and outlaws) to parenting to crime prevention and everything in between. Who owns the problem and how…

7 habits of highly unsuccessful people

Advice on retaining your sanity in the face of a complete idiot

7 habits of highly unsuccessful peopleDo you: 1: Never miss an opportunity to educate those around you? Call attention to mistakes they have made and make sure everyone else knows about those mistakes?. Don't hesitate to point out when someone (a colleague, an employee, the clerk at the local hardware store, an airline pilot, the prime minister) is wrong and…

Focus on your goals to put them within reach

You get what you’re fixated on, so get rid of the negative thoughts and distractions and focus on what's important to you

Focus on your goals to put them within reachThe news is filled with folks complaining. From politics to economics and everything in between, people are focused on what we don’t have rather than what we do. It’s such a deeply-rooted problem that it makes me wonder if our focus is the primary culprit for all the unhappiness we perceive. When we imagine ourselves…

Relax, everything is going to turn out just fine

Burning desires are tense; detachment is relaxed and open. Get what you want by stressing less about outcomes

Relax, everything is going to turn out just fineSome of the biggest conflicts we face are about the frustration we feel when we don’t follow through and achieve what we’ve set our minds on. This causes us to become prickly in our relationships and take our irritation out on others. When I first started working in law enforcement, there were all kinds of…

Turning your sense of failure into success

Believing you can't do something won't get problems solved. Find a way if you truly want a happy life

Turning your sense of failure into success“I can’t manage everything by myself anymore, I’m completely stressed out! From being responsible for all the meal planning to childcare responsibilities to cleaning the house, there’s no romance, no time for friends, no time to read. Something has to give.” These were the first words spoken when I sat down with one of my…
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