Making peace with past mistakes

The more we dwell on a past mistake, the more we identify with it. We have become that mistake or bad choice

Making peace with past mistakesDid you ever wake up from a nightmare still in distress? Were you awake but still experiencing the trouble you got yourself into while dreaming? One of the most horrible nightmare experiences I ever heard of was that of a young mother who, in her dream, had oven-roasted and eaten her baby girl. She was…

Does getting older mean you’re wiser?

The untrained, uncontrolled mind can ruin our precious relationships and harden our hearts. Don’t listen to it

Does getting older mean you’re wiser?I attended a funeral recently where everyone felt uncomfortable. The atmosphere was thick and interactions felt totally artificial. We were acting like robots going through the motions – lips moving, hands shaking, legs walking. There was absolutely no heart communication. So do we get wiser as we age? If you think so, you probably forgot…

Block the pop-ups: think less, think better

Stop feeding your mind worthless thoughts and negative emotions. If you want peace, restrain your mind and strengthen your will power

Block the pop-ups: think less, think betterMy friend’s mom worried her entire life about her five children. Every aspect of their existence was material for her fertile imagination. Potential hazards were always on her mind – from her toddlers catching a deadly virus to her school-age boys being snatched to her children marrying the wrong person two decades down the road.…

Train the mind and grow happier

A new weekly column by Nicole Bernier explores how you can overcome negativity, particularly as you age

Train the mind and grow happierHaving retired, my favourite uncle certainly didn’t expect the mental burden that accompanied his privilege of no longer having a job. “Day after day,” he said, “I have lots of free time. My mind is in a state of chaos. I can’t stop thinking too much and my past mistakes are starting to haunt me.”…