Turning your sense of failure into success

Believing you can't do something won't get problems solved. Find a way if you truly want a happy life

Turning your sense of failure into success“I can’t manage everything by myself anymore, I’m completely stressed out! From being responsible for all the meal planning to childcare responsibilities to cleaning the house, there’s no romance, no time for friends, no time to read. Something has to give.” These were the first words spoken when I sat down with one of my…

Five tips for choosing the right family solicitor

If you are currently going through a family break-up, there are likely going to be several questions that you are asking

Five tips for choosing the right family solicitorFor most people, their family is the centre of their lives. So, when a family breaks up, it’s natural to feel a mixture of emotions. If you are currently going through a family break-up, there are likely going to be several questions that you are asking. A good family solicitor will help you while dealing…

Nothing in life is simple any more

Your life used to be fairly predictable: get a job, get married, have kids, retire. Today's uncertain world requires a whole different set of skills

Nothing in life is simple any moreI just learned a new acronym: VUCA, which stands for volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous. I guess I’m behind the times since the term has been around since 1998, when it was introduced in the U.S. military to describe the situation in Afghanistan, replacing some less printable alternatives. Unfortunately, today VUCA describes far more than…

Roots that run deep, nurturing a family over generations

Reconnecting with our Highland heritage, its resourceful and egalitarian values, and the natural legacy that flows to all of us

Roots that run deep, nurturing a family over generationsWhat a gift it is to learn something new about your family roots relatively late in life. Looking back, this process seems more and more infrequent. But not 2017 – it was a banner year for old family intelligence. It was the year we reconnected with our Highland roots. Our teachers in this process were…

Resilience makes dealing with the vagaries of life seem like a great adventure

Deal with the vagaries of life by working to make them seem like a great adventure. Embody the change you want in the world

Resilience makes dealing with the vagaries of life seem like a great adventureI was still in high school when my father was fired from the San Francisco Examiner. Dad loved the newspaper business and he especially enjoyed his job, working with the newsboys who (then) sold papers on street corners. I knew he'd be devastated by the loss. To add to the problem, he had been employed…

A spirit gone, but enduring through lessons well taught

Bruce Webster defined how best to live life: with respect, humour, physical and intellectual rigour, and a willingness to take risks

A spirit gone, but enduring through lessons well taughtI packed my suitcase and dashed to the Horseshoe Bay ferry terminal to join my wife and her family at the palliative care ward of the Nanaimo hospital. Four adult children and their mother were already around a bed in a private room with their dad and husband, Bruce Webster. By the time I arrived,…

The secret to a long marriage, Royal or otherwise

To make wedding wishes come true and wedding vows a reality for the long haul, spouses need to overcome the very human tendency to focus on the self

The secret to a long marriage, Royal or otherwiseQueen Elizabeth and Prince Philip just celebrated their platinum anniversary. That’s a milestone that few couples attain. While I’m not an expert on marriage (although I’ve been happily married for 35 years, half that of the Royal couple), I suspect the dream of a happy and long-lasting marriage is not any different today than 70…

Does getting older mean you’re wiser?

The untrained, uncontrolled mind can ruin our precious relationships and harden our hearts. Don’t listen to it

Does getting older mean you’re wiser?I attended a funeral recently where everyone felt uncomfortable. The atmosphere was thick and interactions felt totally artificial. We were acting like robots going through the motions – lips moving, hands shaking, legs walking. There was absolutely no heart communication. So do we get wiser as we age? If you think so, you probably forgot…

A Secret Santa challenge to one and all

Holiday gift-giving isn’t supposed to induce panic. Let's all scale back, reconnect, celebrate memories and build new traditions

A Secret Santa challenge to one and allThere was a moment, one Christmas morning not too long ago, when we realized we had overdone it. After opening our dozens of gifts, we couldn’t move from our seats around my sister’s living room. It had finally happened. We had too many gifts. It was an embarrassment of riches. As our children mature, they…

Women facing the ‘baby bounce’ have legal options

A pregnant woman facing termination or a mom coming off maternity leave who learns she won’t be rehired may have grounds for a human rights complaint

Women facing the ‘baby bounce’ have legal optionsWorking women constituted 47 per cent of the Canadian workforce in 2014, according to Statistics Canada. Women productively contribute to the economy as labourers and cabbies, business owners and engineers, and in countless other ways. So one should think all employers would regard their workplace contributions as important enough to retain them when they become…
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