We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and small

Make today the day you pause, make eye contact and explore how to ease conflict and build a more connected community

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and smallThere will never be a shortage of situations that put people in conflict with one another. From our strong opinions about the environmental impact of pipelines to the economics that drive decision-making. From differences of opinion about in-laws (and outlaws) to parenting to crime prevention and everything in between. Who owns the problem and how…

Intimacy requires constant nurturing

When conflicts create added pressure, focus on opportunities that promote a sense of belonging and a sense of significance within your relationship

Intimacy requires constant nurturingThe third instalment of the Fifty Shades of Grey movies was released in time for Valentine's Day. This has certainly been a catalyst for some pretty interesting conversations on respect, fidelity and experimentation. If your relationship is strong and boundaries are communicated well, experimentation can work. However, I tend to work with the fallout when…

Landlord-tenant conflicts often come down to respect

Most conflicts would simply evaporate if everyone took the time to adhere to some simple and fundamental courtesies

Landlord-tenant conflicts often come down to respectWhy are tenants and their allies already protesting landlords in Vancouver as 2018 dawns? They’re outraged that a landlord would have the audacity to apply for an eviction order to remove a tenant who hasn’t paid the rent. How inconsiderate of them. And a few of those landlords are trying to make repairs to their…

Don’t be so quick to take offense

A bad joke or inappropriate comment is often just that: a bad joke or inappropriate comment. Calm down, and carry on

Don’t be so quick to take offenseMy old friend and colleague, Postmedia columnist Lorrie Goldstein, recently tweeted out, “The ‘new racism’? Apparently it’s something called ‘microaggressions.’” More specifically, it relates to “racial microaggressions,” a term coined by psychiatrist Chester M. Pierce in the 1970s. It was reintroduced by Columbia University psychologist Derald Wing Sue several years ago, after he and an…

How to engage in difficult conversations

Job-related or personal, we all face these situations. But you can be prepared by practising, being direct, learning to frame the issue and staying calm

How to engage in difficult conversationsHow would you handle yourself in front of the media if you were accused of sexual harassment or impropriety from several decades ago? This is the circumstance faced by actor Kevin Spacey this week – and many other Hollywood and political personalities over the past several weeks and months. Is it beneficial to simply apologize…

Politics is filled with conflicting opinions, and that’s healthy

Sure, conflict is uncomfortable. But if we’re not exposed to it occasionally, how will we ever get more comfortable being uncomfortable?

Politics is filled with conflicting opinions, and that’s healthySaskatchewan Premier Brad Wall recently announced he was retiring from politics. This news came as a crushing blow to my husband, although neither one of us has ever lived in that province. Why did he take the news so hard? In his opinion, Wall was the last political leader willing to stand up for national…

On the road to travel trauma? How to find a better route

When things aren’t going quite according to plan, breathe. No one likes travel stress, but sometimes we create our own problems and cause unnecessary delay

On the road to travel trauma? How to find a better routeJust when did we all become so sensitive and overreactive to situations beyond our control? Recently, my husband and I travelled to San Diego for a surprise birthday and anniversary party. The weekend was a ton of fun as we connected with family we haven’t seen for a long time. However, the travel was filled…

Mindfulness training can help you cope with all life throws at you

Apple uses it. Google uses it. Deutsche Bank uses it. Even General Mills uses it. So why not you?

Mindfulness training can help you cope with all life throws at youOne of the fruits of regular meditation is mindfulness – basically being more aware, primarily of our thoughts and feelings, but also of the world around us and the task at hand. A number of leading corporations – Apple, Google, Deutsche Bank and General Mills, among others – have begun using mindfulness training with their…
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